Communication

Communication is a funny thing.

It is the one thing that is most necessary for relationships yet the one thing that people fear most.

Why do they fear it do you ask?

Because communication reveals information. Information becomes knowledge. Knowledge is power, and power in others hands leads to vulnerability.

People don't want to feel vulnerable, they don't want people to know what they keep locked in their mental and emotional closets, no matter how much the other person may truly care.

In a way it is a pride issue. We feel that our privacy is more important than the relationship.

Of course I am a repeated offender of this. I have found that telling people things about me is one of the hardest things for me to do. I fear vulnerability, exposure, to be laid bare to where someone can see me, can see me in my entirety, the good and the bad.

but sometimes that is what i need to do. Sometimes vulnerability is a good thing. It builds trust. so i need to start trusting people more. Because if i can't trust others than how can i expect them to trust me?

Without trust we get stuck in a vicious spiral that goes nowhere. And it all starts with communication...